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Parashah Toldot

The one where Isaac and Rebekah have twin sons, Esau and Jacob, and where favoritism and deceit have terrible consequences.

Isaac, son of Abraham and Sarah, marries Rebekah. After struggling with infertility, Rebekah conceives twins. Even in the womb, there are problems between the two. Rebekah, troubled by this, prays about the situation and receives a prophecy that two nations are in her womb, and the older will serve the younger.

Esau emerges first, red and hairy, followed by Jacob, who holds onto Esau’s heel. As they grow, their differences become evident. Esau becomes a skillful hunter and a man of the field, while Jacob is described as a simple man, dwelling in tents. Isaac prefers Esau because he enjoys eating the game Esau hunts, while Rebekah prefers Jacob.

One day, Esau returns from hunting, very hungry. Jacob is cooking a red lentil stew. Esau asks for some, and Jacob proposes a trade: the stew in exchange for Esau’s birthright. Esau, driven by his immediate hunger and unaware of the long-term value of his birthright, agrees to the trade.

When Isaac is old and his eyesight is poor, he wishes to bless Esau before he dies. He asks Esau to hunt and prepare his favorite dish. Rebekah overhears this and devises a plan to have Jacob receive the blessing instead. She prepares a dish similar to what Isaac requested and dresses Jacob in Esau’s clothes, using goatskin to mimic Esau’s hairy arms.

Jacob, despite initial reservations about the deceit, follows his mother’s plan. He approaches Isaac with the meal, and when questioned, he insists he is Esau. Isaac is suspicious because of Jacob’s voice, but the goatskin convinces him. Isaac blesses Jacob with prosperity and power over his family, including dominance over Esau.

Esau returns with his meal, and when he learns of Jacob’s deceit, he is devastated. He pleads with Isaac for a blessing. Isaac gives him a secondary blessing, stating that Esau will live away from the earth’s richness and the dew of heaven. He will serve his brother, but there will come a time when he breaks free and shakes off the yoke, or burden.

Esau holds a deep grudge against Jacob. He makes a plan to kill Jacob after their father’s death. Rebekah learns of this and decides to send Jacob away to her brother Laban in Haran, both for his safety and to find a wife from her family.

The detailed family problems lay the foundation for later stories of conflict, reconciliation, and the shaping of the nation of Israel.

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Teen Takeaways from Parashah Toldot

  1. Sibling rivalry: The story of Jacob and Esau teaches us how rivalry and jealousy between siblings can lead to major problems. It’s a reminder to try and get along with our brothers and sisters, even when we’re very different.
  2. Honesty matters: Jacob’s trickery to get his father’s blessing might seem clever, but it also teaches us that honesty is essential. Deception can lead to big complications in life.
  3. Family favorites: Isaac and Rebekah’s favoritism toward their kids caused a lot of tension. It’s a reminder that it’s not healthy to play favorites in your family. We see that sometimes parents make poor decisions and fail to protect their kids. Not all families are like those on TV.
  4. Divine plan: Even when things seem messed up, like Jacob tricking his dad, there’s a belief that everything is part of the plan. It’s about trusting that things will work out the way they’re supposed to in the end. Often people look back at what happened and try to make sense of it by imagining a plan.
  5. Consequences: Actions have consequences. Jacob had to run away because of his trickery. Remember that your choices can have big effects on your life. Have you even done anything that then caused you to do something you wished you could have avoided?
  6. Think about decisions: Esau’s quick decision to trade his birthright for some food shows us that sometimes we need to think carefully before making choices, especially important ones. As we grow into young adults, we need to be aware that immediate gratification is not often worth it. Sometimes if we wait, a better solution comes along.
  7. Family drama: Parashah Toldot shows that families can have a lot of drama. It’s important to work on keeping good relationships with your family members and not let conflicts get out of hand.
  8. Growing Up: Jacob’s character grows and matures throughout the story. It’s a reminder that we can change and become better people as we grow up.
  9. Forgiveness is possible: In the end, Jacob and Esau reconcile, which shows that even if you have big problems with someone in your family, forgiveness and making up are possible.

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Summary

These lessons from Parashah Toldot can help you navigate family dynamics, personal growth, and ethical decisions as a teenager. It’s a part of a bigger story in the Torah that has wisdom applicable to your life today.

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